Abraham lincoln said "The best way to predict the future is to create it now". You don't have to be trapped by your past mistakes and failures, focus on now, because what you do now becomes your past, and determines your future. Are you currently slaving away at work? You can become a business owner. Are you currently settling for less in a relationship, you deserve the best. Are you currently failing at everything you do, you can become successful. Now the question is how can you bring out the best part of yourself?
1. Believe there's more to you. Yes there's more to you than what you and those around you can currently see. You just have to eliminate self condemnation and start believing you are not a loser. The power of believe is so strong that you become what you think you are.
According to Henry Ford " There is no man living that cannot do more than what he thinks he can" so instead of seeing yourself as a failure, reassure yourself daily, by saying "i am better than what i am now, i am not a failure, i will get there".
In summary, your beliefs matter a lot in bringing out the best part of yourself. You can't become what you don't believe you can be. Just believe your best is yet to be discovered and what yourself start becoming the best part of yourself.
2.Be success driven in all ramifications: You can become your best self by being success driven in all aspect of life. Alot of people are career driven, but lose sight of other aspects of life, such as family, relationship,e.t.c. Who says you have to be successful in one aspect and fail woefully in another aspect, why should you do have a successful career and have a broken home?
Often times, we define success monopolistically and in the long run we end up with regrets. Because the failure of one aspect will later destroy the joy you derive from the success you achieved in another aspect of your life.
Thus you can become the best of yourself by having a successful career, successful marriage, successful relationship and other parts of life you may feel doesn't count. You can't afford to sacrifice one aspect for another . In other words. Focus on being successful in all ramifications.
3. Eliminate self pity: So many times, we wallow in self pity such that opportunities and good things of life elude us. Jack canfield said "For every reason it's not possible, there are hundreds of people who have faced the same circumstances and succeeded." Thus, your current pitiful situation, is what some people took and turned around in to an opportunity. Nobody will help you until you rise up and help yourself.
Why should you continue saying "if not" if not what? Life is about ups and downs. It gets high and low. So when it gets low and you condemn yourself in that season of lowness, the season of highness will definitely pass you by.
Therefore, pity yourself for a moment, because it's human to entertain self pity. Then shake it off and hope for the best. Because your best is yet to come.
4.Eliminate inferiority complex: Do you know that people post their best pictures on social media after filtering off all its flaws. So why should you set the standard of your life according to somebody else's filtered fake life. You are doing better than most of the people you wish to be like. eliminate your inferiority complex and stand up tall.
You are better than that your friend you wish to be like.
The way people filter their pictures is the way they also filter the lifestyle they portray to the world. Then people start competing over a facade. At the end of the day when all filters come off your friend, you'll see how awesome you really are and how fake people really are.
5. Turn your naysayers to your motivational speakers: According to Aristotle "There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing." If you focus on the critiscism of your naysayers, you will never become the best you can be. Instead of allowing naysayers critism to weigh you down, turn it to motivation, and let it push you to become better.
The voice of your critics can become the voice of motivation, if you take every criticism, sieve it, pick the ones you can use to become the best person you can be, and dispose of the negative words. Show your naysayers your result and they'll become your motivational speaker. Remember gold passes through fire before it shines.
In conclusion, there's a king and queen in you. You don't have to settle for less, and definitely your current self, has a better version that's yet to show. Keep believing in a better you and you'll be the best you can be in life. There's no limit to who you can become and what you can do.
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